Our culture lionizes on the idea that “I don’t owe nobody, nothing!” it is a powerful current in a sea of staunch individualism. What if it is also part of the reason we feel so pervasively adrift, so systematically lonely? What if it is the anchor on the chain of anomie? What if the communities and relationships we long for and hope for are only possible when we are willing to be deeply, unrepayably indebted to one another?